If you're avoiding or withdrawing from your wife or girlfriend, it's quite probable that she feels rejected or abandoned by you. If your wife feels rejected by you, it's important to start to deal with it, rather than avoid it, if that has been your tendency.You may be trying to protect yourself by pulling away emotionally, but at the same time, you're harming your wife, which may, in fact, contribute more to your withdrawal and hiding.

This kind of thing can become a vicious cycle.People can often make poor decisions when they feel rejected or abandoned. Your wife or girlfriend may choose - unconsciously - ways to hurt you or make you feel the way that she's feeling, which is going to exacerbate the problems you're already dealing with.

It's imperative to start to talk with your spouse about this phenomenon, and if you can't, finding a professional counselor or therapist to help you work through these issues is a must. Even if you don't usually talk in this way, it's going to create a challenge to you to stop hiding out and withdrawing emotionally and to trust that you can start the important conversations about the marriage or relationship.You may both need healing. You may need to learn how to get your needs met and express your emotions in a way that's relationship-building, rather than destroying.

Your wife may need to be able to communicate her hurt and neglect to you in a way that you can finally hear, and learn to work together to heal emotionally and evolve your relationship or marriage. If you’re interested in learning more about the Couple and Marriage counseling , or if counseling might be right for you, please feel free to contact me directly or visit our couple counseling page for detail.