Counseling for Men Who Are Afraid of Counseling

Getting men into counseling is sometimes one of the harder aspects of counseling. Men who will commit to the process are sometimes resistant to get help until the problems have accumulated to the point of breaking - often the 11th hour.One of the problems that men experience is a failure to diagnose the problem as it is accumulating. It's hard for anyone to be able to be fully aware of what the problem is, when we're in it. Our perspective is pretty skewed when we are in the midst of our own problem, yet for men, it's difficult to ask for help, which compounds the problem.Taking the first step to ask for help is half the solution. Just getting into talk with a therapist or counselor is a great start, but making the commitment to come in on a regular basis is just as important. At times, especially for a guy in a relationship, they think that having a "good week" with their wife or girlfriend means that they can quit counseling. Not true. Just because the week might go well, which is good, doesn't mean that men have their relationship problems solved. Sometimes, the counseling work in do with men in Phoenix, Arizona, is deeper than than, and requires more time commitment.A lot of time, it's the wife or girlfriend who initiates the first step to get counseling for their guy. Then, the guy will come in, often times as a couple. Women often are the initiators to getting help to fix or save their relationship, but not always. As the traditional caretakers, I often talk with women who are more outwardly concerned about preserving their marriage than their guys are.Men work very successful in therapy when it is solution-focused, and there are skill-building exercises and homework for them to do. They feel most successful when those things produce results in their relationship, which spurs them on to continue with the counseling process.If you’re interested in learning more about the Men’s counseling , or if counseling might be right for you, please feel free to contact me directly or visit our Men’s counseling page for more information.