Fear of rejection by women?

One of the things that I have been thinking about is how we play games to avoid the fear of being rejected by women. I notice this with some friends I have, and with some clients. The one way in which this seems to be most apparent to me is by displaying the opposite behavior: rejecting the woman or potential relationship partner first. It happens less that people actually own up to being afraid of rejection, because a lot of the time, they don't know it's there. Honestly, I think we're afraid of the fear. We are afraid that if this person gets to pierce through our facade, they will find someone that they didn't bargain for, someone less adequate than the initial facade that was show to them through the dating process.
Sex is used in this way, to speed up the intimacy process and to bypass the getting to know you process.Some men that I know reject women after sleeping with them, over and over again. Not only do I feel ashamed as a guy, but feel bad for the female rejectees who are probably relationship-minded and are seeking something else during the act of sex with this person. Women are more intimacy and relationship minded; when we reject them after sex, or soon thereafter, we give them them messages that they are not good enough or unworthy or our affections. In effect, we are displacing (or projecting) our inadequacies onto them through the very act of rejecting them. Men have a notoriously difficult time opening up to their feelings, and opening up to fear of rejection is by no means any exception to that rule. It gets transformed into a socially acceptable thing - to bed women and conquer them, which creates an endless cycle of loneliness and misery.
It's very difficult to create a satisfying relationship under these conditions, and a lot of guys are left to do this cycle over and over again.I can help you with these types of problems if you suspect that you are a guy (or girl) who creates this "rejection cycle" for him (or herself). It's hard to break this cycle on one's one, and as a Counselor for Men, I know the inner workings of this cycle to help you break the cycle once and for all. If you’re interested in learning more about the Men’s counseling , or if counseling might be right for you, please feel free to contact me directly or visit our Men’s counseling page for detail.