2014 End-of-the-Year Self-Assessment
It’s become a bit of a annual ritual here, but I like to take some time out at the end of the year and look backwards (before I look forward) to a new year and assess my previous year. It's what I call the annual end-of-the-year self-assessment, a chance to take an honest look at every part of your life and assess what's worked, and what hasn't, in order to build on that for a happier and better life.I like to spend some time with myself at the end of the year, and take an honest look at the areas of my life that went well, and those that could have used some improvement. I create goals at the beginning of the year, and this is kind of an assessment of those goals.Taking stock is a good way to orient yourself to yourself, your life, your goals and dreams. It’s a roadmap of where you are, where you’ve come from, and where your going.I think one benchmark of a successful year is to compare your year to your personal values. Comparing what has happened, and what your values are and how those areas compare to your benchmark, or ideal, is helpful in navigating you through your assessment.I believe it’s really important to approach this in as neutral or unbiased way as possible. It’s hard to honestly assess ourselves, because we’re in our own lives, and sometimes lack the perspective, but I think it’s needed to get as wide a perspective (read: both the good and bad) as you can, without judgment!
Questions to ask yourself while you’re assessing yourself through your past year:
How did I do this year?
Do I feel successful (or not) in the areas of my life? Which ones?
Are there areas or room for improvement?
Did I live my life areas in alignment with my values? Why or why not?
What would someone close to me say about how I did? Does that differ from how you see it?
Where did I want to be a year ago, and have I gotten there? Why or why not?
What got in my way? What are my barriers to change or success, or getting to where I want to be?
What regrets do I have this year? How can I build off of those next year (without shaming myself)?
Here are some life areas and sub-areas to consider in your personal assessment. Try sitting down one weekend morning, and writing them down or journalling about them. Try writing out your responses, or even rating each area from a 1-10 lowest to highest. You can use the questions above to guide or navigate yourself through the life areas below, or add on additional questions or life areas that suit your needs.
Examples of life areas:
Financial
Day-to-day spending
Impulsive purchases
Eating out
Retirement savings
Budget planning
On the same page with spouse about money
Planning for big purchases (car/house/vacation) with a budget
Professional
Overall happiness at work (intrinsic, or things within yourself/extrinsic, or things outside of yourself)
Identification of work problems, and their possible solutions
Overall productivity
Relationships with others, superiors
Motivation for doing your work
Looking for another job/Resume or CV building
Prospect for advancement with current position
Alignment with long-term career goals
Spiritual
Church/temple/religious participation
Time in nature, or with God/higher power
Membership in a spiritual/religious community
Meditation
Yoga/Tai Chi
Spiritual or religious reading
Personal
Time management
Work/personal balance
Relationship with self/self-esteem
How you talk to yourself
Hobbies that you do regularly
Downtime for yourself
Self-care/meeting your needs
Emotional well-being
Psychological well-being
Personal fulfillment
Marriage/Primary Relationship
Your communication skills
What you would assess, and what your partner would assess
Your listening skills (How well you listen)
What you would assess, and what your partner would assess
Getting your needs met; knowing what you need, and how to ask for it
Meeting the others’ needs
Sexual relationship fulfillment
How emotionally vulnerable you allow yourself to be in your relationship/marriage
Your levels of defensiveness in your relationship
Dealing with conflict/knowing your “conflict cycle” (ask me for more info. about this)
Quality time with spouse/significant other
Family/Relationships
Time/contact/availability with your children and/or grandchildren
Time/contact/availability with your primary family/family of origin
Happiness with the quality/quantity of your relationships overall
Time with close friends
Time with not-so-close friends or acquaintances
Networking
Community involvement
Physical
Sleep
Diet/Nutrition
Exercise
Motivation to exercise
Health and medical care
Bad habits/choices
Medical problems
Giving/Charity
Contributions to charity
Time given to organizations of your choice
Day-to-day giving of yourself to others
Levels of selflessness
How you treat others
These are the life areas I could come up with. Which would you add for yourself? Try to make this a routine, and see how you progress from year to year. It’s a nice way to follow up on goals, which sometimes get lost soon after the year starts. Growth is not achieved overnight - it’s the accumulation of decisions, choices and behaviors that add up over time.
It may take additional resources (time/money/energy/other people, etc.) to fulfill some of your goals to get to the point that your happy with them.
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