One thing guys have a really difficult time doing is leaving their taskmaster at the door, and this creates a ton of relationship and marriage conflict. How?Guys - in their masculine energy - are used to employing their "task orientation" skills to get things done: at work, at the gym, navigating, fixing cars and whatnot. Problem solving skills can be used effectively, but often not so well in a marriage or relationship. It simply doesn't work.Women are very different creatures, and guys forget this. Relationship harmony requires checking that taskmaster or "accomplisher" at the door. Those roles are fueled by a certain masculine energy that can oppress and suffocate a lot of women, or relationship partners in general. I see this in reverse just the same:

women can easily fall victim to not knowing when to leave their taskmaster at the door.The problems with this? Again, it can be oppressive to the other relationship partner, it can cause anger, and it communicates criticism and judgment towards the partner who is "not on board" with the program. Often, women (who bring more yin that yang) are about "being", versus men who are about "doing." Men's yang energy (read:"bright positive masculine principle" in Chinese translation) can create an imbalance when guys don't know how to contain it, or check it at the door when they get home.The sweet spot is the balance in between. Guys can develop their awareness to balance the forces, and to employ the "taskmaster" or masculine energy at will when it's needed: in the boardroom, in the bedroom, etc. Knowing how to hang out in the "being" place a little more is tricky for many guys.Your relationship or marriage can benefit with the development of both the "being" and the "doing" experiences. Therapy or counseling can often help with the emotional development and expression of those energies, and to figure out where the blocks, and then to remove them. If you’re interested in learning more about the Men’s counseling , or if counseling might be right for you, please feel free to contact me directly or visit our Men’s counseling page for detail.