Gary Vaynerchuk seems to know a thing or two about passion. His book - "Crush It" - details the application of his passion, and how he built his family wine business into a multimillion dollar empire. In a talk tonight at Changing Hands bookstore in Phoenix, AZ, Gary thought that finding one's passion lies in what they consume. In response to an audience member's question, Gary said that to find one's passion for work, he might try looking to what he was already consuming - t.v., media, hobbies. What was he already doing?I think that says a lot, because when work isn't work, it's flow. Time seems to take a backseat, and one's passion and creativity get unleashed. The passion begins to flow, and the line between work and play seems to blur.

I'm interested in two things: finding what you love to do, and then figuring out how you stop that forward progress. What negative messages and roadblocks do you experience on your way to meeting that love?Sometimes the "I'm not good enoughs" or "Someone is already doing that - I can't do what they're doing" get in the way. "Time is limited" or "I need more training" or any number of other folkish aphorisms get in the way. An invisible ruler starts to dictate behavior, comparing yourself to this and that.Passion is there, where you listen to it or not. Passion for the work you do, or for the people you help. Passion for the play that you invest in, or in the relationships you built. Passion for the new ideas that germinate in your brain, or passion for the way you do seemingly trivial or mundane tasks. If you’re interested in learning more about the Men’s counseling , or if counseling might be right for you, please feel free to contact me directly or visit our Men’s counseling page for detail.